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When I talk to other singles or look at personal ads, I see a lot of people listing many physical qualities they wish to have in a mate. They want someone to be a certain age, Make at least certain amount of cash, Have a given eye color, Be a certain height and so on and similar matters. I have to admit that for years I was quite judgmental towards those people and I would sometimes even resent online dating because I got so sick of looking at profiles of men in their mid to late 30s who wanted a woman that was between 21 and 30 years old. At the same time I was completely oblivious that I was rejecting guys who were too short for me or didn’t make enough money. soon after dates where we had great time together he told me that he really likes me and enjoys talking to me but he cannot be in love with me because he only falls in love with women who have blue eyes. of course, i had become hurt, distressed and even furious. not forgetting, I felt aesthetically displeasing because my eyes are brown. After this with that guy, All I kept seeing around me were the sexes looking for love while having all those physical and external qualities in mind, Unwilling to give a chance to anyone who doesn’t fit into that profile. And they all complained either about the inability find someone or about the person they were involved with for not meeting their needs. I judged them while doing the exact same thing myself only in another way. And for whatever reason, Blue eyes kept coming up as a factor enough times for me to think of an expression: “What are you really researching, true love or blue eyes,I added to stay single and unhappy. I complained to my friends as well and when they told me that maybe I wasn’t quite ready for a relationship yet, I got mad at them for exclaiming it. I didn’t know what can be done to be ready, And I didn’t know how long will it take for me to even know that we’re ready. most likely, It has been a long time since I’ve been in a romanntic relationship as is. and can then be it hit me. Most single people stay single and fantasize of someone with certain physical qualities as they are not ready to face the real fear of intimacy. And when they meet someone who is all those qualities, They are lead to believe they found their seniorpeoplemeet login in ideal match. What they really fall in love with is the idea of being with that person while at the same time trying to change them into being what they want. you might want someone athletic, under 30, With blue eyes and at least 6 feet tall, But contemplate this: What is critical to you, To have a relationship with someone or to be with someone who looks good on paper or on a cover of a magazine? I understand and by no means exclude the possibility that you can have all of the above. But to achieve all of that, You must first really look at your priorities carefully. to paraphrase, In order to finally meet someone who has all the physical qualities you desire and on top of this giving you all the love and healthy intimacy you need, Love and intimacy must be better priority. this is how the universe works: If nowhere eyes are your priority, you will get the blue eyes, But may very well not get love. And if your priority is healthy the relationship, closeness and love, you will get just that. If you give somebody over and above your listed criteria a chance, guess what. And I am not encouraging you to date someone you don’t like or even click with just because you feel like you’re being too picky and just to be in a relationship you have to date everyone who asks you out. Not at all may case. You will be costing you time. But if you meet someone whom you like or feel a certain comfort around or feel a hitting the ground with even if it’s not physical, And if they are curious about you, Then allow them a chance. You never understand how it will turn out until you try.